Raising emotionally healthy children who will live their BEST life..
“I don’t understand my math problems at all and now my day is ruined!”.
My 10-year-old daughter tends to be a bit of a ‘black and white’ thinker.
In her quickly moving mind, most situations are deemed either all good or all bad within a matter of seconds, and she struggles to see the grey possibilities that exist in-between.
Will we have to wear masks at school?
Can we still have recess?
Will online school be the same as it was last time (in the Spring)?
This was only the tip of the ‘question iceberg’ that surrounded our family’s recent discussion of what might take place during the upcoming school year.
While each family will select the school option that’s best for them and their children, there is one variable that all children will have in common heading into Fall, the uncertainty of what’s to come.
Why is this important to address? Because biologically, uncertainty wreaks havoc in the brain of your child affecting both their academic learning as well as their emotional well-being and mental health.
Basically, uncertainly equals anxiety, and an anxious brain is a brain NOT ready to listen, learn, socialize, and focus throughout the day.
The difficulty human beings have handling uncertainty isn’t particularly surprising given the fact that security, safety and predictability are all very basic human needs.
It’s not hard to see that humans value control above almost all other capacities. We admire others who are in control, and we congratulate ourselves as we learn to control our personal circumstances (or have the illusion that we can control them).
The effect of uncertainty on the human mind has been studied at length, and time after time the results are the same; humans would actually prefer knowing a negative consequence will happen to not knowing if the consequence will be positive or negative.’ Pretty crazy right?
The good news is, this same research also shows that while humans may be averse to uncertainty, we can learn to live within it, and your child can too.
While you can’t prevent uncertainty in your child’s life, you can help to equip them with powerful tools that will allow them to cope and thrive within it.
Here are 5 simple ways you can help your child to feel more confident and prepared heading into the uncertain schoolyear ahead.
If you ask yourself how many important conversations you have about significant life events relating to your child’s life, how many of these conversations have you included your child in?
As your child gets older and has the ability to verbalize and think critically about the topic at hand, it’s time to show them the respect of asking their opinion.
This doesn’t mean they get the final say. After all, you’re the leader of the family and ultimately decide what’s best.
It does mean that you’ll gain a better understanding of your child’s point of view on the matter and can then work to collaborate and gain mutual understanding of the final choice moving forward.
If there was ever a time to normalize emotions, now is it. The world is emotionally charged, providing the perfect opportunity to teach your child about different emotions and healthy ways they can cope with them.
This happens simply by asking your child often, “how are you doing today? How have you been feeling?” (these emotions flashcards are a great resource for this)
Read books and offer visuals depicting different emotions and normalize and validate all of their feelings (even the ones that make you uncomfortable). Listen, listen, listen.
When your child has an outlet for their emotions not only will they feel more connected to you, they’ll be preventing anxiety and depression that can creep up when emotions are bottled up.
In addition to talking about their emotions, your child’s stress needs a physical outlet as well.
Providing opportunities each day for activities that act as natural stress relievers is a guaranteed way to help them blow off steam and lighten the load their nervous system is carrying.
Some activities that are powerhouses for relieving stress are physical exercise, doing anything out in nature, and having periods of time for them to choose what they play (not including screens).
Sounds simple, but building these activities in daily takes dedication, planning, and prioritizing on your part which is often easier said than done.
While coming up with a plan for the upcoming months has likely left you feeling less than confident many days, when you’re ready to deliver the news to your child, it’s time to put your game-face on.
It’s easy to forget that you set the emotional tone for your child when you begin an important conversation.
If you’re feeling super uneasy or anxious, that’s your cue to get your own confidence and emotion ducks in a row, before communicating with your child.
Honesty with age-appropriate information is good, but without your child feeling an underlying sense of safety and security from you, it will be hard for them to find confidence in the uncertainty.
Focus on the positives and make sure they walk away with the clear message that “We can get through anything together”.
The irony is, the more you need ‘self-care’ the harder it is for you to put it into place. Why? Brains under stress have a harder time seeing the big picture and applying reason and logic.
Your child picks up on so much more than the words you use when sitting down to have a discussion. They pick up on your emotional energy, presence, tone of voice and demeanor.
It’s ok for your child to see you face stress and adversity while experiencing real feelings, but it becomes overwhelming to your child if it becomes commonplace and they feel the captain of their ship is not ready to be at the wheel.
Create boundaries with your child and make sure they’re not absorbing ongoing exasperating phone calls and conversations about stressful topics.
Find outlets for your stress and work through your own emotions so they’re not inadvertently dumped on your child.
While the months ahead are likely not what any of us would have chosen, it’s an opportunity to learn and teach a powerful lesson. While we often can’t control the circumstances around us, we can still choose to control how we respond to it.
With your support, your child can come out of the uncertain year ahead with more confidence and resilience than they had going into it.
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Between my friends, clients in my therapy practice, and the Parents with Confidence Facebook community, I’ve seen a strong reoccurring theme these last few weeks with kids.
There’s a good chance you’ve seen it with your child too.
“I feel sad and angry sometimes and I don’t really know why.”
“He keeps freaking out on me ALL THE TIME and I don’t know what to do.”
“Little things that never bothered her before are causing her to completely fall apart.”
While there doesn’t seem to be much everyone can agree on right now, one thing we surely can is that we’re all living in a stressful time.
Have YOU been feeling unsettled, unfocused, and overwhelmed lately (I can’t be the only one)?
Now just imagine how your little people feel, as they are waaaay more dependent on consistency, predictability and stability to provide them with a vital sense of safety and security.
When your child’s brain’s sense of safety is threatened, it activates their brain’s emotional center, or amygdala, cueing more emotional outbursts.
Everyone’s emotional house is crumbling a bit right now, which really isn’t all that surprising is it?
So what’s the first and more important thing a parent can do when dealing with their child’s emotional outbursts?
Stop acting like they shouldn’t be having an outburst.
Here’s the thing. Your child will have a very difficult time successfully working through (aka getting done with) their emotional outbursts if you’re not creating an environment that allows and welcomes emotions (and especially big ones).
I know it’s uncomfortable when your child cries and I also know that your brain goes into panic/stress/anger overload when your son whacks your daughter with a piece of his Hot Wheels Track.
This happens because you are a good parent and you are HUMAN.
You want to protect your child from pain and discomfort and care about them so much that you become emotionally overwhelmed right alongside them!
While this may be our instinctive (and learned in many cases from a childhood where our emotions were dismissed) reaction, it’s not a helpful or healthy one when it comes to raising an emotionally intelligent child.
Because emotions are actual physical-chemical responses in your child’s brain, Resisting, and trying to force them away does not work.
When it comes to calming an emotional child, the only way out of an emotional outburst is through.
We are certainly good at acting as if we have the power to stop the emotional fireworks from being set off though aren’t we?
“You’ll be ok, you’re not going to die from it!”
“It’s not that big of a deal, you’ll be fine“
“Knock it off, that’s enough!”
Take just a quick second to think about how you’d feel if your partner/friend etc responded to your tears or anger with those phrases.
Pretty eye-opening isn’t it? Not to mention epically disrespectful AND unhelpful.
Related resource:: The Magical Phrase to Use with Fighting Kids {Printable}
Your child’s dismissed and invalidated emotions aren’t going anywhere good (ignoring them enough will send them to the subconscious mind where they can fester into anxiety and depression) so it’s time for you to ‘suck it up’ (see what I did there?) and learn how to get a little more zen when your child’s emotions start to fly.
1. Reflect on how you show up when your child’s emotions become escalated. Do you become emotionally heightened right alongside your child and begin to yell? Or do you tend to shut down and move away from them?
This is likely your default mode for responding to stress, or how you react when your limbic system starts to activate ‘fight, flight, or freeze’ mode.
Knowing your own tendencies and reactions when you become overwhelmed, will allow you to explore whether or not that pattern is going to be helpful for your child. When it comes to fostering your child’s emotional regulation skills, coming alongside them as a calm steady guide is always the most helpful approach.
2. Reflect on where your patterns or reactions come from. When you were young did your caregivers quickly shut down your emotions communicating they were intolerable? Many of us heard the common phrases “Stop crying!” “Just deal with it” “Tough it out” and learned that emotional expression needs to be extinguished.
Perhaps by nature, you’d consider yourself a very emotional person. As a highly sensitive person (or HSP), I’ve learned that I’m affected more deeply and intensely by the big emotions of my children.
Exploring both nature and nurture will help you better understand yourself and become more intentional about the way you react to your child in stressful circumstances.
3. Count to 10 and repeat a helpful mantra in times of stress. When your brain is stressed, it likes to default to old (and oftentimes unhelpful) habits. You need to steer it in the right direction and the best way to do this is with your thoughts.
Give yourself a phrase or mantra to repeat often such as ‘Pause, and let it be’, ‘I can handle this’, ‘breathe and allow their emotions to come’ etc.
Remind yourself that the only healthy way ‘out’ of emotion is going through it. Emotions are meant to be noticed, felt, and listened to as they communicate so many helpful things to us!
These 10 seconds will allow your brain’s stress reaction to calm down and will model for your child that emotional expression is healthy and acceptable and that their emotions are not too big or scary for you to handle.
Only when you successfully make space for their emotional expression first can you move into the ‘hands-on’ part we all like to jump to, talking to your child and helping them to cope.
A simple phrase that validates their emotion will go far to help them feel seen and heard, “I see you’re very upset and I’m here” is a great validating phrase for many situations. In situations where your child is expressing their emotions in ways that are physically or emotionally unsafe a limit is still needed.
It’s possible to provide both reassurances of their emotions and set a limit on their behavior at the same time. “It’s ok to be mad but it’s not ok to hit your brother. I’m here to help”.
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The question of how to raise an emotionally intelligent child is a life-changing one, and it starts with the ’emotional atmosphere’ they internalize in their everyday environment.
While stress is at an unprecedently level right now for both adults and children alike, instead of viewing this in only negative light, we can see it as an opportunity to grow and expand ourselves as parents, and to foster invaluable social and emotional skills for our children.
Healthy emotional development in children starts with the foundational concept that our emotions are meant to be acknowledged and accepted.
Oftentimes in parenting, ‘listening to your instincts’ is a helpful concept. For many of us, responding to our child’s emotional outbursts is a exception to this rule.
The good news? Raising an emotionally healthy child that will live their best life, can start with the small simple step of practicing going against your ‘instinctual grain’, during your child’s emotional outburst today.
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Emotions are running high right now for your family. I know this because they’re running high in mine too.
“Stop it!”
“Mom, she said she hated me!”
“Well, I never want to play with you again anyway!”
…and that all happened on the other side of the bathroom door in a 30-second time span of the kids fighting.
With everyone at home together all. the. time. stress levels are at an all-time high, making it truly difficult for all parties involved (small or large) to keep their cool and practice good communication and emotional regulation skills.
We know from studying the brain that when emotions get bigger, reason and logic get smaller. This happens because when the brain’s emotion-center (amygdala) is activated the thinking center’ (pre-frontal cortex) quite literally goes ‘off-line’ and is harder to access. (Think of when you’re really nervous and your mind blanks.)
Your kids are not exempt from the stressors piling up around us right now. Unpredictability abounds and all of the routines and structures that keep kids emotionally tethered have been taken away.
For many families, this means sibling fighting is at an all-time high.
I want to share the magic phrase that has been a lifesaver for me during this time at home with my kids and family.
When it comes to children fighting (or any two parties communicating positively) there’s a primary skill I learned in my family therapy training that works like magic.
This approach works so well because as opposed to most attempts at conflict resolution, it avoids blaming and criticism which puts the other person on the defensive.
It also effectively communicates what the individual needs, which is a vital part of resolving conflict that often gets left out.
Finally, it’s an amazing way to help your child build self-awareness, emotional intelligence, problem-solving skills, and communication skills that will help their future relationships thrive.
So what is this amazingly powerful strategy to use when kids are fighting?
The basic concept is what’s known as an “I statement”, or making sure to start your phrase with an ‘I’ instead of “You”….but it doesn’t stop there.
There’s a specific ‘I statement’ phrase that can be used in just about any situation where tensions are rising with siblings fighting or in any family conflict.
Sibling conflict often feels overwhelming to address as a parent, which leads to parents either avoiding their kids fighting all-together or quickly jumping in to manage and negotiate the conflict for them.
Both approaches fall short when it comes to teaching a child the valuable conflict resolution and communication skills they need to get along with others.
The power of an ‘I statement’ is pretty remarkable. Not only does it streamline communication in a way that side-steps arguments, put-downs, and negativity it’s also very easy to remember.
If you make this magic statement a habit, your brain will file it away as the magical tool it is, and you’ll have it in your back pocket ready to dissolve any sibling conflicts that pop up.
This phrase is golden because not only does it start with “I feel’ which keeps the focus on the child speaking and not on attacking the sibling, but it also proceeds to deliver information about the WHY behind their emotions and the NEED or BOUNDARY that lies beneath.
Your new favorite sentence:
I feel ________ when ________ and I need you to please _________.
Pretty amazing right?!?
Here are some examples.
“I feel overwhelmed when you talk to me while I’m doing my homework and I need you to give me 10 minutes.”
“I feel angry when you call me stupid and I need you to not call me names.”
“I feel left out when you play with Sam more than me and I need some playtime with you too.”
It’s all but impossible to be reactive or negative with someone when they are genuinely communicating about their own experience, thoughts, and emotions.
This miracle phrase for kids fighting (or anyone in distress!) dissolves defensiveness and reactivity while also equipping the other child with the specific information they need to move forward positively (talk about killing two birds with one stone!).
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So often we tell kids what not to do while forgetting that they need teaching and guidance on what they should do.
Not to mention each child is learning invaluable lessons in the process:
Simply prompting your child with this phrase whenever you hear tensions rising, will work miracles to help resolve family and sibling conflict.
With time and repetition, you’ll soon be able to whip this phrase out on auto-pilot… and what’s even better is that will time and repetition your kids will start to use the phrase unprompted on their own!
Now go enjoy a calmer home!
Here’s a peek at it…
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I wake up most days feeling full of energy and ready to take on the challenges ahead.
I get the kids fed and ready to start their day…and have my first of 597 cups of coffee (all of them equally amazing). Things are OK.
As the afternoon wears on, by about 3 pm I can start to feel the energy drain from my body. I get slow and lethargic and my limbs feel heavy.
So much for exercising or cleaning the kitchen floor…
I hate this feeling. I hate feeling tired, unproductive and irritable. There are still things that need to be done, darn it.
The day wasn’t supposed to go this way…
Maybe it’s the opposite for you. Mornings might find you feeling like a wet blanket…and then by lunch, you somehow work up the motivation and positive energy to play with your kids or do the laundry.
Here’s the biggest lesson I’ve been learning in all of this stay-at-home craziness:
Wherever I’m at emotionally is OK.
While this may seem simplistic at first glance, accepting moods and emotions just as they are, has proven very challenging for us human beings.
Especially when you’ve been taught throughout your life that to feel SAD, MAD and SLOW isn’t OK.
We internalize all of those ‘don’t cry’s and ‘you’ll be ok’s’ and ‘be tough’s’…and now we’re fully grown adults who get mad at ourselves for having very normal and healthy emotions.
Why does this matter?
During my clinician training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (basically just a popular curriculum for teaching mindfulness developed by Jon Kabat Zinn), I learned that this phenomenon is a concept known as ‘secondary pain’ and it matters A LOT because when you RESIST and FIGHT your emotions, you end up making things 10 times worse.
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Not only are you experiencing the discomfort of your primary emotions… you then invite in a bunch of guests known as ‘secondary emotions’ to the party.
What does fighting or resisting your emotions look like? Well, it can look like all of these things and many more: beating up on yourself internally, excessive anger, numbing with screens, food, shopping, alcohol, exercise, or distracting yourself with work.
Essentially, instead of being present with and allowing yourself to feel emotions of overwhelm, sadness or anger you dig an ’emotional hole’ that ends up being much much deeper.
Here’s a quote that I’ve been holding close right now:
“The best way out is always through”
It’s a quote from the poet Robert Frost, but it’s been adapted in many contexts to symbolize the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our emotions… in order for that emotion to pass in a healthy and natural way.
After all… that’s what our emotions are designed to do. To come and to go, while serving the purpose of communicating something to us.
Emotions as a chemical reaction only exist for a mere 90 seconds.
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So, while I hate my mid-afternoon energy slump and not getting any cleaning or exercise in, I’ve been getting a whole lot of practice learning how to soften and accept, after my initial knee-jerk response of irritation and frustration.
This usually sounds something like this,
“It’s ok that I feel yucky right now. It’s understandable. There’s a lot going on and I did the best I could today. My body and emotions are trying to tell me to slow down and I don’t need to fight this”.
I’m doing my best to roll with the waves of my emotions, preventing them from becoming a tsunami.
After all, life is offering up plenty of ’emotional tsunami’s’ right now as it is.
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Wherever your moods take you throughout the day is OK. If you need to take the afternoon off- for Pete’s sake lie down on the couch for a few hours.
If you need to break down and cry, let those tears flow mama.
If you don’t have the energy to make dinner tonight let the kids eat cereal… for all 3 meals.
If you’re a crabby lunatic for the first hour of ‘schooling at home’, forgive yourself, let it go, and move forward.
If you need to scroll for a bit on social media, don’t stress about it, just be aware of your actions and explore other outlets too.
Listen to what your body and emotions are telling you and find the peace and empowerment that exists in LETTING emotions BE and letting things GO.
This, is the most important self-care you’ll ever do.
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Everywhere you look right now, there’s a new educational app or resource focusing on how to teach kids academics at home.
As a mom now working out of my kitchen, trying to keep three children happy and somewhat cognitively stimulated, I’m grateful for each of these, as the role of teaching my own children academics was one I was not prepared for.
Aside from academics, there’s something else getting much less attention, but we should feel just as concerned about it.
My ability to maintain a sense of emotional safety and security for my kids at home while their routines and lives are in many cases being turned completed upside down.
After all, I don’t remember another time (in my lifetime at least) where the collective stressors of the world were stacked higher than they are now, and there’s no doubt this energy of fear and uncertainty travels through the cracks of our home.
I want to protect their emotional well-being now when we’re hunkered down at home, as well as when the Pandemic passes and it’s time for them to return to life as they know it.
I know that if my 10-year-old is having anxious thoughts, she won’t have the motivation or focus to get through 90 minutes of schoolwork…and that if my sensitive 5-year-old absorbs the words and energy around him he’ll start reporting “I’m hungry” about every 20 minutes, or “my stomach hurts” (both telltale signs of anxiety).
Without typical rhythms and structures of daily routines tethering them to a sense of predictability and safety, your child will greatly benefit from other measures to help keep their stress level low and to prevent any anxiety from developing.
While quarantined at home, Your tone, energy, and overall emotional presence will serve as your child’s emotional guidepost.
How can you provide calm and confident reassurance to your child? Be honest with the many emotions you’re feeling right now and take the necessary steps to work through them and take care of yourself physically and emotionally.
My 8-year-old has broken down in tears more times then I can count in recent days…when she gets stuck trying to sign in to an electronic device or is unable to find her toothbrush. Just as you will, your child is going to have heightened emotions in the days and weeks to come.
While I know you’d love your child to approach you and calmly communicate everything that’s going through their little mind, their emotions will more often than not, come out in the form of arguments, anger, or tears.
It will be tempting to respond to the behavior you see on the surface, “There’s no need to cry about this!”.
You’ll have much better luck if you assume your child’s seemingly over-sized reaction has more to do with pent up emotions coming up for air than it does the topic at hand. Unconditional comfort and support over judgment and criticism is the answer.
A great way to keep emotions from building up on the surface is to do regular ‘check-ins’ with your child. Taking a moment to ask them how they’re doing with all the changes happening right now, will go far to create a safe place for bringing up worries or concerns (look for the free printable for this at the end of the post).
Provide visuals to help them identify how they’re feeling( This feelings chart and flashcards work perfectly for kids ages 3-9).
Normalizing the very healthy and typical swirling of emotion within your child will help to decrease their stress, and help them learn how to accept and work through their emotions.
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As stress hormones build up in their little body, your child needs consistent avenues to ‘blow off steam’.
Physical activity gives your child calming and regulating sensory input which helps to disengage the emotional area of their brain (where stress and anxiety live) and strengthens the part of the brain responsible for focus, self-control and decision making (the pre-frontal cortex).
Evidence shows that exposure to news programming and other scary screentime can cause children to experience fear and anxiety. When children are exposed to violent or aggressive content, their brains often process it in the same way as if it were actually happening to them.
If children are exposed to mature content in the news that their maturing brain can’t yet process, it will leave them feeling overwhelmed and anxious.
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We’re stuck at home but that doesn’t mean we’re stuck inside. The benefits of nature for kids are incredible and spending time outside is one of the most powerful coping strategies you’ll need to ensure your child has access to in upcoming weeks.
Time spent in nature has been shown in studies to boost our mood and ability for self-regulation, or our ability to manage incoming stress. Enough said.
Listening to your child’s thoughts and concerns both large and small is an enormous way to communicate to them that they’re seen and valued as individuals.
Just as you perceive a great loss of control during this time of quarantine, your child does too. Giving them more opportunities for control and leadership will go a long way to help meet their need for autonomy.
It’s easy to forget that your child’s brain is underdeveloped and has very different processing abilities than yours. Aim for balancing important facts and giving them the why behind some of the changes they’re experiencing with leaving out any information that may overwhelm your child or cause them anxiety.
A great way to start a discussion about overwhelming and scary things is to ask open-ended questions such as,
“Do you have any questions about why we’re staying home?” or “What have you heard about_______ already?”
Here’s a great guide on what to say to your child about Coronavirus based on their age.
Hands down the most powerful thing you can do to provide your child with an underlying sense of safety and calm is to connect with them each day.
True connection means really seeing your child, taking the time to meet them on their level and enter in their world. This might look like letting your child pick a board game to play, sitting down on the floor with them and just listening, or cuddling in bed at night with absolutely no agenda.
Not only does your child release stress through play, but play is also the magical conduit to growth and development in many areas relating to your child’s social and emotional health including communication skills (listening skills), emotional intelligence (how to manage emotions in healthy ways), confidence (how to self-direct and persevere) and self-control (inhibiting impulses for the greater good).
Time for free play is just as important to your child as the time to do a math worksheet or read.
Even though your family may be cut off from the outside world in many ways, you can find ways to promote socialization and a sense of interconnectedness right in your living room.
Taking the time to call a great grandparent or make a card for a neighbor models kindness to those in need. Not only do acts of kindness correlate to increased feelings of happiness and contentment, but they also produce emotional ‘powerhouse’ qualities such as empathy and compassion with counter feelings of depression and anxiety.
During this time of uncertainly your child’s emotional well-being hangs in the balance. The emotional tone you set at home and the small daily steps you take to help provide them safety and comfort will serve as enormous protective factors (conditions that mitigate risk and increase health and well-being) for your child both now during the quarantine and when the steady rhythms and routines of daily life resume once again.
This post comes with a free printable daily check-in worksheet! An easy way to give your child the chance to communicate how they’re feeling and thinking to keep their emotional health as a priority.
Here’s a peek at it…
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